Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Posted by THE CHRIST JAMES at 10:36 AM
I have a small issue I need help with. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about to years and I love him so much. I’ve had my fair share of unhealthy relationships and on my 30th birthday I vowed that I would never take part in a relationship that didn’t meet my standards. Shortly after my birthday I met my current boyfriend at a christmas party and when I first met him, he wasn’t really “my type.” I liked men who go to the gym and had a kind of pretty boy look and my man is none of those things. He’s handsome in the traditional sense and he’s tall and skinny. Anywho he grew on me after a while and we ended up going on several dates and he was the most persistent, kind, compassionate and he turned sexy on me. Well I know that i have a little baggage that I need to get rid of because I have been cheated on in the past but my boyfriend has given me no reason to believe that he’s being unfaithful. We talk about everything and he shared with me that a woman at his job has made it very clear that she wants to sleep with him knowing full well he’s with me. Apparently she doesn’t care. They do have to work closely together and so they do have each other’s cell phone and email. I like that he was honest with me about what he thinks of her. He said she’s attractive but she’s a wh*re and he would never even consider sleeping with her. She’s significantly younger than we are and I can see how her advances are juvenile. The other night while he was in the shower his phone started buzzing, it was really late and usually no one is calling or texting him at that hour. I looked through the phone and the chick form his job sent pictures of her p*ssy and her t*ts asking if he was sure he wasn’t tempted. I went through the history and she was being extremely flirtatious and he was texting short replies like see you tomorrow, go to bed or enough. I can admit that when I confronted him about it, I flipped out and threw his phone across the room and went off. He swore to me that nothing was going on and that I was being insecure but he has yet to delete them! I felt violated like I had been cheated on again. I don’t know why but my trust is not as solid as it was in the beginning. What should I do?